My Thoughts on Dating While Recovering
Have you ever wondered if someone would judge you for having a health problem? Because one day you can have a ton of energy, and the next day you can feel both physically and mentally depleted. I believe it's better to over-communicate than under-communicate. From my life experience, I learned to:
1. Communicate my symptoms as often as possible
Even if I don't want to complain, my honey deserves to know what's going on so he can help me.
2. Tell him how he can help
Sometimes it's hard to ask for help, but it saves me precious energy. Plus, it makes a world of difference to have someone to vent to, massage my sore muscles, bring me medicine or make me a healthy meal.
3. Tell him I appreciate his support
Not all boyfriends are created equal, and not a day goes by that I don't appreciate the selflessness of my love.
4. Be open to questions
"Why are you always tired?" "Does the weather make you feel worse?" "Will you ever be 100% cured?" These q's are a sweet sign of selflessness, so I try to meet him halfway and clearly explain my point of view.
5. Find my limit
If I don't feel well and don't have the energy to follow through with plans, I can feel worse physically and mentally from pushing too much. Learning when to say no is just as important as learning when to say yes.